ChuckAndBetsy.org is now also DateToWin.org!
important Elements of the "Date to Win" model
Revise the Prize
Recognize Your Season
Recognize Your Season
Revise the Prize urges young adults to keep holiness as their ultimate goal in dating, rather than marriage. When daters pursue the universal vocation of holiness, their relationships will be time well spent, even if the two people end up going their separate ways.
Recognize Your Season
Recognize Your Season
Recognize Your Season
Recognize Your Season helps daters understand the organic nature of human intimacy, particularly the need to proceed slowly in the early parts of a relationship and to move forward with a decision about marriage when a relationship is sufficiently mature.
Remodel Commitment
Recognize Your Season
Remodel Commitment
Remodel Commitment teaches daters to use time-bound commitments (TBCs) to structure their dating relationships. They make and keep specific promises that bless and encourage their dating partner.
Recruit Community
Break Up with Conventional Dating
Remodel Commitment
Recruit Community helps daters benefit from the wisdom of their communities. This includes intentionally seeking out a long-married mentor couple and other advisors such as married peers, family members, and spiritual leaders.
Ignatian Discernment
Break Up with Conventional Dating
Break Up with Conventional Dating
Our time-bound commitments utilize principles of Ignatian discernment, encouraging daters to work through difficulty together in times of desolation while making decisions about the relationship only in times of consolation.
Break Up with Conventional Dating
Break Up with Conventional Dating
Break Up with Conventional Dating
For Christians pursuing chastity and authentic love, "dating" has devolved into a vague, powerless system of open-ended, self-centered commitments that can be broken at any time for any reason. This constant threat of breakup—no matter how well intentioned the daters—feeds decision fatigue, resentment, and insecurity.